Communication: Talking to your partner about sex

Communication is an important part of safer and satisfying sex. Partners can say “yes” or “no,” talk about desires and boundaries (likes and dislikes), discuss relationships and negotiate practicing safer sex and/or using birth control. There are many benefits to sexual communication, but remember that you shouldn't make a decision about whether or not to practice safer sex based only on what someone else tells you. Partners might say they've been tested and are infection free or they might tell you that you're their only partner. Sometimes this is true. But sometimes people aren't honest with us, for many different reasons (maybe they're embarrassed or ashamed about their past or sometimes someone will say anything because they want to have sex with you).

 

Communication is PART of practicing SAFER SEX;
it DOESN'T replace SAFER SEX.

Remember these communication tips:

  • Begin talking about sex with your clothes on don't just wait until the heat of the moment.
  • Be honest with each other and listen to each other.
  • Sexual communication takes practice.
  • Communication is verbal and non-verbal.
  • Talking can make you feel closer to a partner.
  • Talking can be sexy and fun.